Clarity finds its resting place in understanding; while it is indeed mutual it can never remain negotiable, for in its purest phase the bond is completed.
Souls in bodies are patterned in expressions; those that look like the worldly expressions are worldly souls, unredeemed, those that look otherwise ARE otherwise, and the measure of the vow is in the pattern...
Forgiveness to one is understood only by one. Forgiveness from one is also understood only by one. It is the soul that understands; the two opposites and unites them in one.