Clarity finds its resting place in understanding; while it is indeed mutual it can never remain negotiable, for in its purest phase the bond is completed.
Souls in bodies are patterned in expressions; those that look like the worldly expressions are worldly souls, unredeemed, those that look otherwise ARE otherwise, and the measure of the vow is in the pattern...
Meaningful pacts are not only based on agreeable content, but all the more upon the disagreeable measures of limitation; these set the terms of violation.